How many times have you asked if you are good enough?
Sometimes we wonder if what we do and who we are is enough to meet our expectations, other people’s expectations and society expectations…
The first thing to do is to cut the word expectations out of the conversation.
Expectations are normally the easy path to failure because if we expect something and it is not achievable our mind consider it as a failure.
Life is not a pass/fail test!
I follow many high-end athletes and their mentality is either you win or you learn. If you or somebody else create expectations about you… that is going to put weight into you… now it is up to you to carry that weight or not.
Expectations are also connected with what other people think and their approval of us.
Lao Tzu, the founder of Taoism says: “Care about people’s approval and you will be their prisoner.”
If in life, your actions and attitudes are to fulfil other people’s and social expectations of you. To fulfil unrealistic expectations that you have of yourself. To gain other people’s approval… I can guarantee you that you will never be enough.
There is always another expectation to fulfil… there is someone else to gain approval from… there is always a wall of criticism to climb and then this becomes a never-ending story of frustration.
Now on the other hand, if you act, think and behave by being yourself and living in your own essence you are always enough. You will always be enough if you do the best you can at every occasion by being you.
Are you perfect? No, you are not! Am I perfect? No, I am not! Is anyone perfect? No, they are not!
We are human beings and it is part of our DNA to make mistakes, we do the best we can with the cards that we are given, with the physical and psychological limitations that we are given, with the background and situation that we are given.
Guess what: It is ok!
Those mistakes are opportunities for learning, so that next time we will not repeat the same mistake, but sometimes we do and guess what: it is still ok!
Now, if we are aware of a mistake and purposefully keep on doing it repeatedly, that becomes a problem because we are not being the best we can be. Due to trial and error, we know better!
There is no point in battering ourselves with guilt; all we need to do is to make the changes in us and in our life that will lead us to be the best version of ourselves.
Are you good enough? Yes you are!